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4 Game Changers for Fathers

Fathers_day_father_with_kid_on_lakeFathering is hard work. It’s essential work. And it can be the greatest joy in life. Here are some thoughts to empower your work as a father.

Lead from the Front

In ancient times, a king would ride into battle ahead of his troops. His presence and shared hardships and dangers with his troops earned him great credibility and honor. He was the rallying point for his soldiers who would fight to the death to protect him.

Our cultural battle is just as grave. Fathers must lead their children through the battle lines of an amoral culture. We cannot lead with words alone. Fathers must be seen as committed and dedicated through their actions. We teach through words. We inspire through actions. Fathers must strive to show their devotion to God through everyday actions. Let your children see your dependence on God and your love for Jesus. Let them see you studying the Bible. Let them hear your prayers. Lead!

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Be Timeless

Every action you take today will resonate throughout future history. Sadly, it’s the failures that are often remembered most. Many scholars hold that Richard Nixon was an excellent President. His victory in the 1972 Presidential election was one of the biggest landslides in U.S. History. Yet, one series of events has tainted him for all history. What would Nixon have given if he could repeat those few crucial hours in the White House?

As you lead your children, remember that you are making memories. Even today, you probably remember stories, good and bad, about your father and grandfather. Your daily life is the foundation of your children’s memories. Remember the powerful words of Proverbs 22:6, “train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Every action you take has the potential to form an enduring memory. How do you want to be remembered?

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Deliver on Promises

Children are like the proverbial elephants – they remember everything. Choose promises carefully and only after considering your ability to deliver.

In an adult’s mind a promise about a weekend outing that doesn’t pan out is no big deal; it happens. But for the child who has looked forward to a getaway with a hard working dad that broken promise is huge. Don’t promise what you cannot deliver.

Quality and Quantity are Essential

A recent television commercial has a father declaring that he doesn’t get to spend much time with his children so he makes sure that every minute is quality. That’s a nice sentiment, but it doesn’t really hold water. Children need both quality and quantity of your time. [bctt tweet=”Sometimes a child just needs to know you are available.”] The world offers a false dichotomy. You can have quality or quantity but not both. How wrong!

Your job was here before you and will be here after you are gone. Don’t allow your children to pay the price for your absence. Their successes as adults will be remembered more than your advancement.

These tips will energize you, your wife and your children. Try them and you will be convinced of their importance. Your children need you more than you can imagine. Model godly parenting and you will see them reap the benefits.

Bryant Evans may be reached at bryant at bryantevans.com. You can follow Bryant on Twitter @jbevans.


Real Problem #2 – No Leadership

Vasnetsov_Grave_diggerOur culture is dying for leadership. The once proud society which engaged in the greatest experiment in human self-governance is soon to draw its last breath. It is suffering from a disease that touches every member of society. It is not quarantined in the White House or in Congress, although they are sicked too. It is a contagion that is not restricted to Hollywood or the big cities. It is an illness that we all contribute to.

There are no leaders.

21st century America thinks of leaders in political terms. We think of Congress, Governors and the President as out leaders and indeed they are. But true leadership is far more than winning political races. Leaders are everywhere.

A Lack of Leadership in the Home

Our homes are a mess. Parents no longer lead but instead respond to the direction of their children. Youth have no one to follow in their homes so they follow television stars or some popular kid at school. Without the direction of a strong parent it is no wonder our children seem aimless.

Parents are to train their children (Proverbs 22:6) and to apply discipline when needed (Proverbs 13:24; Proverbs 22:15). Yet, many fathers do not apply discipline because they are not at home. Work or even poor character keep men out the homes. Women feel beleaguered because all of the burden of raising a child is laid upon them. Children of broken home are sometimes undisciplined because parents are afraid to make the child unhappy and thus drive them closer to the ex-spouse. The result, no leadership.

Parents are God’s only way of training future parents. Sloth now produces more sloth in future generations. Only by re-establishing leadership in the home can we begin to reclaim the high ground that once marked out our society.

A Lack of Leadership in Business

This is a bit misleading. There is leadership in business but it is the wrong kind. Many in the business world have bought into the idea of “profit at all costs.” If it helps the bottom line, it must be good. Gone are the days when the primary goal was to help another. A famous wall street titan of the past once taught his employees that the best stock buy and sell transaction was one that left a little something in it for the next guy. No more.

A Christian retailer who sold decidedly un-christian products in his store once commented that church was church and business was business. Real leadership don’t you think?

At the root of much business malaise is greed and covetousness. “The righteousness of the upright will deliver them but the treacherous will be caught by their own greed” (Proverbs 11:6). “But now I am writing to you not to associate with anyone who bears the name of brother if he is guilty of…greed” (1 Corinthians 5:11). We ought remember Jesus own warning that a man cannot serve God and money (Matthew 6:24).

Business should be clean and honest where both the buyer and the seller walk away with value. Cheating, manipulation and slick deals have no place in the Christian economy. We need strong Christian leaders who will stand for righteousness even if it means loosing a deal.

A Lack of Leadership in School

Pure-mathematics-formulæ-blackboardI know something about public schools. I am a product of public schools as is my wife who now teaches in a public school. My eldest son will graduate from a state university and my younger sons are students in the public schools. It’s clear that there is a lack of solid leadership in our schools.

It is easy to point to the Supreme Court and argue that removing prayer from schools is the reason for our scholastic problems. But that is only a part of the problem. Teachers and school staff must display high levels of morality and righteousness. Teachers who use profanity and who have out of school activities that are unrighteous ought be removed from teaching. Such includes sports coaches who cannot coach without classless, vulgar statements and profanity.

We need more teachers who are willing to challenge the system and raise the quality of student’s lives. Instructors must not blindly follow curriculum that teaches falsely and opposes God. Courage is needed now.

Freed-Hardeman University once used the phrase, “teaching how to live and how to make a living.” That’s a fine motto for all of our educators.

A Lack of Leadership in Washington

There are problems in Washington D.C. For decades, some have used government as the means to denigrate people of faith and to remove Godly principles from the public square. Some leaders have assaulted the so-called Judeo-Christian work ethic. Honesty is rare among our leaders. There are serious leadership problems in Washington.

But before we draw and quarter our politicians, let us remember how they got there. These governmental leaders are where they are because society put them there. The system of elections in the United States is sufficiently strong to ensure that the people who win are the people chosen by the voters. IN other words, they are the fault of a society that does not want righteous leadership. Fix the society and you will fix the political system. You cannot do it the other way around.

But still, government is God’s idea. We are to honor our government and to remain obedient to it even when we don’t like what it does (Romans 13:1). When the church obsesses over government we miss the mission of the church. The church was not given to be a political force but rather a force for salvation in the world. Consider the successes of the original Christians against the backdrop of Roman persecution. What could a Peter or Paul accomplish today?

A Lack of Leadership in the Church

Verbena_United_Methodist_Church_July_2011The church is dangerously close to drifting into irrelevance from the perspective of society. It is not the the church will actually be  irrelevant but just that society thinks so. Why? I think there are two reasons.

Churches do not teach doctrine anymore.

In an effort to attract new people into their numbers, churches deliberately softened their doctrine. Churches appropriately desire to reach sinners but a subtle change has occurred. Sinners are not expected to change. Repentance is gone. The Bible teaches differently. Repentance is essential (Luke 13:3, 5; Acts 2:38; 2 Corinthians 7:10). Some churches ignore what the Bible teaches on homosexuality. Some ignore what the Bible teaches on adultery. The sin remains but the churches fail to teach.

Churches are social clubs.

The church is the place where God puts the saved (Acts 2:41, Acts 2:47). It is of divine origin an not a human device. Churches are community. They are made up of people and the church ought edify them all. But some use their churches as networking centers and give little regard to the spiritual basis of the body of Christ. Such social clubs do little to lead people to the mountain of God.

The church ought be the voice of Christ on the earth. The church ought lead its members and the community as we challenge the current societal ills. Without leadership in the church, the world cannot change.

We need leadership in every aspect of life. With leadership, there can be growth, great growth and we can begin to turn our culture back to Christ.