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Silence

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silence

Silence. We fear silence. It’s to be avoided at all costs. We keep the television on at home and the radio playing in the car. If a newscaster is quiet for too long, he gets embarrassed. When the preacher pauses, we get nervous. When was the last time you and your spouse rode along in silence?

There’s actually a lot of sound, just not much worth hearing. Sometimes, silence is desired. It’s healing, even therapeutic. Leave the earbuds in the car and walk through nature. The sound of birds, crickets, and a chorus of basso profundo frogs is the perfect inoculation against the ruckus of the world.

People talking without speaking

People hear without listening

Simon & Garfunkel, The Sound of Silence (1964)

The folk-rock duo Simon & Garfunkel bemoaned the silence despite a chorus of noise all around. Nothing was said worth listening to. There was only The Sound of Silence.

They were correct 60 years ago, and they are still right today.

Silence. When Words Hurt

Sometimes, it’s better to be silent. When tragedy struck Job, his three friends came and sat in silence with him. They said nothing for a week (Job 2:11 – 13). There are times when words are ineffective and may bring more pain. In tragedy, there are no magical missives. A gentle hand on the shoulder may be best.

We may become too aggressive in our desire to show concern and offer aid. We don’t mean to cause harm, but sometimes, week intentioned words are misheard or misinterpreted. As students of human behavior, we can sense when we are getting too close or too personal. “I love you” may be the only words they need.

Silence. When Words Help

There are times when carefully directed discourse can bring encouragement and healing to the hurting soul.

Paul said it this way: Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person (Colossians 4:6). He seems to be talking about our interactions with unbelievers. But one key phrase is so useful for us today. He says, “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt.” Have you eaten food without enough salt? Unsalted speech is also tasteless.

The king questioned why Nehemiah was sad. Nehemiah explained that his home, Jerusalem, lay in ruins. The king asked what Nehemiah was asking for. Then, before saying another word, Nehemiah “prayed to the God of Heaven” (Nehemiah 2:4). The King gave Nehemiah all that he asked for and more. Prayers need not be elaborate or long. Pray before speaking.

Our parents and grandparents often advised us to count to 10 before answering or speaking. Words can help but only when well considered. Never respond in anger for you will surely regret it later.

“Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger…” wrote James (James 1:19).

Slow down. Think. Make sure you say something worth hearing.

Words

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Two families in New York City are grappling with the power of words this morning. For the past few weeks citizens have been protesting police actions which resulted in the deaths of black men.  Sometimes those protests turned nasty and resulted in looting and lawlessness on a grand scale. The message portrayed in the media was often one of anger and even hatred for police and law enforcement officials. Now two officers are dead as a direct result of the protesters chants and actions.

Words are the tools we use to convey ideas. The abstract concepts in our head must be formed into words so that we can communicate with others. The only way you can know what I am thinking is if I tell you my thoughts. Even my actions may be misleading. But clear words allow you to understand my thinking.

“Angry words, O let them never from the tongue unbridled slip”

The old hymn “Angry Words” was penned by Horatio Palmer and appeared first in a hymnal around 1860. Palmer, a musician best known for “Yield not to Temptation,” understood the power of the spoken word.

Canadian Educator Laurence Peter opined “speak when you’re angry and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.”

Chinese philosopher Confucius offered, “When anger rises, think of the consequences.”

All are good and noble thoughts but the Bible is far better.

“A hot tempered man stirs up strife but he who is slow to anger quiets contention” (Proverbs 15:18).

“Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense” (Proverbs 19:11)

“Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; 20 for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God” (James 1:19, 20)

“it is not what goes into the mouth that defiles a person, but what comes out of the mouth; this defiles a person” (Matthew 15:11)

“If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s religion is worthless” (James 1:26)

And one more, with a warning:

“I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak, 37 for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned” (Matthew 12:36)

The events of the last few weeks seem so far away from the Eastern Shore. Ferguson, Missouri and New York City are places that usually have little impact on our lives. But words are not weakened by distance. Let us heed Biblical guidance on our speech and emotions. Let us be people who speak graciously and mercifully. Let our voice be that of our Lord. For just a words can have disastrous consequences they can also produce joy, peace and happiness. How will you use your words today?